Sunday, December 20, 2009

How do you find men?

Post here if you have advice about finding suitable men as sex partners:

4 comments:

  1. We have had good luck using swinger date web sites like SDC and SLS. These single swingers have experience are in it for sex arent looking for romance and want to keep good reputations within the swinging community and getvgood referials on the sites.

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  2. Unless this is a "stranger takes over my wife fantasy...and she is down for it..."...then Never allow the third person (the future bull) to know what he is getting into sexually until the end of the night (or courtship)...then once the night is over.... and... good byes are being said by all...tell the third person your are doing an after party/hangout...but still do not let on any sex vibes...once you are all alone...develop a 15 min conversation on real common topics (anything but sex talk...it can be risque, but not hey bang my wife now)....then gradually move into it.... Basically don't make the whole "get to know you phase go straight from meeting to sex...build a solid comfort level (all night) then ease into it. Ultimately sex is better this way.

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  3. Some how....though very weird...I am often recruited by cuck couples to be their "third"...From experience...It's always better to get to know people as friends first (even though desire maybe present) spend a good amount of time before getting physical and I make sure that I 100% respect and understand that they are a couple...and I am just some spice. I am not there to win a wife over or try to out perform her man, but more to give them both what they want in a respectful way.

    It's doesn't mean the sex can't be painful/pleasure-able for the hubby to watch (but it's about when the whole shin-dig ends...that everyone knows it was a role play....not a who bangs my wife better contest....try and make sure that their is no awkwardness when the night ends (it was just a show) not for real.
    Having a regretful "aftermath" theme can really be a buzz kill ....if there is no comfort level established first.

    I find that this understanding the process above (and understanding am just helping their fantasy (not intruding on their relationship) (1_ ultimately makes the physical part better (2) It helps remind me they are a couple first (and I am just an accessory) & (3) the "afttermath" is cool and calculated....not weird and scary.

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    1. I liked what you had to say. My pretty wife and I have not done this yet. She waivers between wanting to be comfortable with someone and not wanting to form a relationship with this person that would threaten hers and ours.

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